Hello, friends! It’s been quite a while since I’ve posted for many reasons, most of them college related. It’s week 11 of a 16 week semester, so the essays, projects, and exams are starting to pile up, making it hard to write on a regular basis.
This week I’d like to talk about how important it is to live everyday to its fullest potential. A few weeks ago, the world lost a kind and passionate soul in a 19-year-old man that I had known fairly well since, at least, age three. The news of his death hit me like a semi truck, as this is the third funeral I’ve attended in the past 5 years for kids near my age. As an almost-20-year-old, I shouldn’t have to attend funerals for my peers, but each time I’ve learned a different lesson. At the first two funerals I learned the importance of attentive driving and not letting the road get away from me, but this time it was different. This time I was absolutely inspired by the life of my friend, Austin, and I want to share some of the ways I have been trying to change my attitude towards life since his funeral.
Step 1: You are what you eat
After hearing the news of Austin’s death, my diet went completely down the drain. I turned to food for comfort and, in doing so, started to feel worse. I was tired all the time, I couldn’t sleep at night, and my daily life suffered. What you eat is SO important to keep track of, for it affects everything you do. Eating comfort foods is okay in moderation, but in the end moderation is always key when it comes to comfort foods. I am now back to keeping track of what goes in my mouth and I’m almost 100% back to normal! Today I made these mostly-keto tacos and my stomach, and body, is happy to be back to normal.
Step 2: Exercise
As I over-consumed comfort foods and wasn’t watching my carbs and sugars, my ambition to exercise declined rapidly. I have spent the last two weeks sitting in front of the TV during my free time, because I lacked the energy to do anything else. I wasn’t reaching my daily step goal of 10,000 steps (I usually meet this goal). I finally got back into a workout routine yesterday and I’m SO sore, but I’m super proud that I’m finally getting back to business as usual. Exercise goes hand-in-hand with food and the more you exercise, the better you’ll feel!
Step 3: Take care of yourself/Put yourself first
I am guilty of putting others first and thinking of what I want last. The majority of people I’ve met are the same way. However, no one is going to take better care of you, than yourself. I am slowly learning how to put myself first and come to terms with what I actually want from MY life, not what others want/expect from me. As I come to terms with this step, I feel my anxiety and stress levels dropping dramatically. I’m learning that I only get one body, and taking care of myself is assuring that I can be around to help others long into the future. If this means pampering yourself every once in a while, go for it! My friend, Brittany, and I did exactly that a few weeks ago (my first EVER pedicure, SO fun.)
Step 4: Make an effort to cross things off your bucket list
This goes hand-in-hand with putting yourself first. Generally, the things on your bucket list are going to be things that will put yourself first. My first ever pedicure was something I could cross off my bucket list. Nothing huge, but something I can now say I have done and enjoyed.
Step 5: Keep in touch with friends
This picture includes some of my friends coming together to celebrate the birthday of one of our mutual friends. Your friends are your legs when you can’t stand, and my friends have been by my side every step of this process that has been the past two weeks of my life. I try to have dinner with my two good friends at least once a week, and I usually find myself keeping in touch with them through Snapchat, text message, or otherwise basically everyday. Friends are there to make life in this crazy world of ours a little bit easier, and they should be embraced, and thanked, with open arms and lots of thank you’s often.
Step 6: Don’t be afraid to reach out to old friends
This is my friend, Megan. We’ve been friends since third or fourth grade. We don’t talk as much as we used to because our colleges keep us busy and about five hours away from one another, but we still try to meet up when we get home. Old friends can sometimes be the best friends, and sometimes you just drift too far apart. Either way, reaching out to an old friend you miss is never a bad endeavor. I find that a lot of people at the funerals I have attended in the past few years have always said, “I wish I would’ve just reached out like I always thought about doing.” I’m very guilty of this line, and I can understand the difficulties a person can face when trying to decide if that message should be sent, and the answer is send the message anyway. Never be afraid to reach out to an old friend, even if it’s just to say, “Hello. I was just thinking of you.”
Step 7: Forgive and forget
If you don’t reach out to that old friend, don’t get hung up over it if they happen to leave the Earth too soon. Forgiving yourself and moving forward is how you can best live for them. This applies to other areas of your life as well. We’re all guilty of holding grudges, and I’m no exception. However, I’m learning to forgive and forget for my health, and it’s like a HUGE burden being lifted off of my shoulders.
Step 8: Stop complaining so much
This step is my biggest downfall. I tend to just keep talking and not realize I’m complaining until I’m three text messages deep and hoping I didn’t write anything too drastic. There’s complaining about something when you have a bad day, or something you actually have an issue with. Then there’s complaining just for the sake of talking bad about someone or something. The second is what I’m trying to stop doing, and, like forgiving and forgetting, I’m feeling much happier.
Step 9: Change how you look at the world
They say that if you change how you look at the world, the world will start to look different. While some people may find a storm or a hindrance in this picture, I find a wonderful act of nature that is made to be feared, but admired. Many times, even in my case, it takes a huge event to change perception and sometimes it’s too late. Try to find the good in everyday, and I’m sure that good things will find their way to you.
Step 10: If you don’t like something, change it
Whether this be something about your hair, your personality, your makeup, your daily routine, or your current situation in life, you always have the power to change your future.
I hope you stuck with me through this long, emotional post. I also hope that you can all take something from my ramblings to improve your life, or the life of someone around you and that you share your experiences with those who love you.
Thanks for reading and I’ll see you next time on A Moment with Cami!